I understand that is a really controversial announcement and I'm likely to get flamed hard in the comments in which makes it. However, it's accurate. I don't care if my children like me. I know they like me, and I need them to respect me personally. But they don't really need to like me personally. In actuality, if they enjoy me all the time then I'm not at all doing my job for a parent. This could be the so-called tough love in good parenting.
Right and Wrong
Children- our job is to receive our children ready for the whole world. We're supposed to teach them right and wrong, the way to balance a checkbook, the way to do laundry, and how to deal with other people who have empathy and respect. We're also likely to show them that they're not going to find what they want. And that life sometimes isn't fair. And that hard workis hard, and sometimes that you do not get a cookie or money by the ending of it. Our kids want us to show them how to navigate life, and sometimes this means doing things they don't really enjoy. When they state they despise me, in fact specially if they state they hate me, I know they are learning and that I'm doing my own job.
After I was seven that I stole two dollars out of my mum's wallet. I needed a novel. About horses, I always think. I asked for the money and she said no. So I took it, and went to the book store and purchased the book. She captured me later about reading the novel and asked me where I got the money. I lied to her but she already knew I had taken it from her handbag. She said that I could continue to keep the book but that I had to get the money and she gave me a list of chores that needed to be carried out. My mom took the book and told me that I could have it back when the chores were done.
I was so angry at her. I had to sweep our long, curling, hill of a drive and that I had been simply raging in her under my breath the whole time. However, once I got old I realized exactly what she educated me this afternoon. And today I do exactly the exact things with my children. They have been learning how to function as operational adults and great folks. Therefore if this means that they think I am the meanest mom living sometimes I'm alright with that. And you should be too.
Responsible Kids
We're not doing our children any favors by choosing the simple path and being their pals. Our kids need us to step up and be responsible. To function as the adults. Also also to demonstrate to them just how to be engaged, active, honest, empathetic adults who can handle the hassles of life without falling apart. Therefore once you never say no to your kids or you fret about whether or not they prefer you in the place of whether or not they truly are learning you are failing them. Stop being their friend and begin being a newcomer. They will thank you later on, I guarantee it.